Do you feel like you are running two lives?
One for your work, and one for you?
One is measured by how much profit is in the company, how many targets are reached and how quickly you can get the job done.
The other is measured by health, taking time out and feeling relaxed and happy.
It really can feel like you are running two lives.
No wonder the term “Work Life Balance” has been coined…
That is literally what most of us are doing, balancing one life against the other like a seesaw, it feels like a fight between the two.
It’s a common misconception…
Most people think that Work Life Balance is binary,
It sounds like a paradox of good vs evil, black vs white, right vs wrong.
It is literally a battle between the two.
The more time and energy you spend on your work, the less time and energy your family and personal life get.
No wonder it has felt like a battle.
It’s not really a battle…
Here’s the thing it actually isn’t a simple battle of one versus the other.
There is a much uglier truth about work life balance.
It is what people like Sir Richard Branson and The Beckhams are renowned for, being great parents, and having amazing personal lives, but at the same time achieving an immense amount in their career. They haven’t traded off their family to succeed in business. And they haven’t traded off their business in order to succeed in personal life…
They have it all…
And before you mention the money and celebrity lifestyle that may or may not help them to achieve this famed balance.
Bob down the road from you has probably got it, and the teacher at your son’s school may also have it.
It’s not about fame and fortune…
It’s about your perception…
If you see it as a battle, it always will be a battle.
You will always need to play one off of another in order to get the results you desire.
The problem here is that you never reach your full success potential in either, because you don’t put in consistent action…
In January you become business/ career focused, in February you become family focused. It literally is a seesaw between the work life balance.
But, you could see it as one life…
You see being better in your career, gives you feelings, thoughts, skills and resources that allow you to be better in your relationships, family life and hobbies. And it works vice:versa too.
Seeing it as one, is the first step in laying the foundations to reaching your full success potential[NOTE: To really master your Success Potential, Check out the SP1 Live Workshop HERE]
Growth isn’t linear.
It is like going for a run… you are primarily doing it to get fitter, faster and leaner. But you also get clarity of mind, focus and positive emotions, which will alter your performance at work and at home.
Can you see there is a crossover.
The more you work on you, the more you grow yourself…. the more you grow and strengthen both your career and personal life.
Growth isn’t linear it’s compounding.
Instead of running two lives and wondering why you are rushing against the clock, lethargic and run down. Instead of trading one life against another.
Just aim to improve and grow yourself,
Consider that every skill you learn will influence all parts of your business and personal life. Next time you learn something, think of all the ways that lesson is applicable in your life.
A few days of this and you will already be compounding your growth and benefiting “both lives”.
So…the question is…
How many lives are your running? And how many lives do you want to run?[NOTE: Want a step-by-step plan to stop running a double life? See Parallel Coaching, Success Potential: Release Your Inner Coach Live Workshop and certification program by clicking here.)
Until Next Time
Hayley “The Two Lives” Bergman
P.S. Let me know what your biggest battle is when running a double life… Comment below: