I hear these statements a lot…
“I’m frustrated and overwhelmed with my weight loss”
“I feel overwhelmed at work”
“I find it hard to juggle my day”
“There isn’t enough time to get everything done”
“”I’m not getting the results that I want”
To sum it up…
It feels like you are driving the car of life with a flat Tyre, and there is no easy way out.
Imagine a day without the spiraling thoughts and feelings of the daily grind.
Imagine not being frustrated and overwhelmed.
Life would be pretty dandy ah!
I love the analogy of the car with a flat tyre.
When we hit a problem in in life [like a flat tyre] we tend to focus on solving the problem quickly to carry on like nothing happened. However, we tend not to focus on WHY the problem or flat tyre occurred in the first place.
It’s seems easier at the time to patch up the problem and move on with the day.
After all, you’re probably going to get a couple of quick wins…
With a new tyre, you continue your journey and reach your destination… fantastic, but did you eliminate WHY you got the flat tyre in the first place?
Regardless, the likelihood is, the problem has been there for while and steadily it just gets worse and worse,
Until one day.
The tyre is flat
Or said differently, you reach burn out, walk out the office and mentally masturbate over your thoughts of overwhelm… making you feel even more trapped.
Where in your day to day do you feel it’s about to POP?
Where is the flat tyre in your life?
What problems have been lurking about for while… adding to your flat tyre?
So instead of focusing on the problem until it goes POP and patching them up quickly, turn your focus towards WHY the problems are there in the first place and how they are steadily building up TOWARDS YOUR POP!
Intro The Paradox….
When we focus on improving and taking action on JUST ONE part of the system there will be an opposite reaction somewhere else in life.
For example, you replace just the one flat trye, the other 3 tyres are still part-worn, unbalanced and the car is tracking else where.
For every action there is a reaction.
You replaced the tyre and the car is now reacting differently, and it is still not efficient.
So, if you have taken action, got some results, hit a plateau and are now frustrated, the next question should be…
“Where in my life have I had a reaction to my action(s)”
I categorise life into 5 areas: Life, Exercise, Attitude, Nutrition and Career [LEANC]
(The life category takes into consideration, family, relationships, spirituality)
WE MUST focus on the whole system.
For example, if your car had a flat tyre. You would focus on trying to fix the tyre or replace it. But there is a difference between just fixing the problem and the car running efficiently [all 4 tyres must be balanced].
In order to run efficiently; time, energy and focus must go towards the whole system.
How does this work for the statements above? These are the questions to kick start with:
Why did I get to [undesired outcome]?
What effect has[undesired outcome] had on the rest of the LEANC system?
How do I focus and improve the entire system to achieve [desired outcome]?
Stop trying to add in one area and ignore that reaction in another.
Perhaps your not even aware of the opposite reaction.
For example, you focus for many years on education and your career; chasing promotions and getting better pay cheques to build a family home. You succeed in this category but what was the opposite reaction?
9 times out of 10… I bet the other 4 categories are well and truly unbalanced.
So the juicy bit?
All categories must expand together and equally in order for balance.
Which means, no more frustration and no more life spirals!
You see all 5 categories influence each other and they compound your results.
By focusing on one category at a time your results will be limited.
However if you focus on all of the categories at once, and give steady and constant, never-ending improvement to all areas, you will have balance and unlimited success potential.[NOTE: If you are a Fitpro and truly want to dial into this, Join us on our next Success Potential Live Workshop]
Imagine these 5 categories forming a wheel shape.
If they are balanced and even, then the wheel will roll down the road effortlessly, in a straight line and can take high speeds.
But if you expand just one of these out of context to the other categories then you end up with a very bumpy ride. This is a perfect example of: “For Every Action There Is A Reaction”.
Not only is it bumpy, but it doesn’t run straight, its hard to keep steering it in the right direction at slow speeds, but near-on impossible when the speed increases.
Can you see how this is the same for your life?
If you are out of balance then you can “get-by” during quieter, slower times of your life,
But when you want to get somewhere quickly, and the accelerator is pushed to the floor, you find your self speeding out of control and in the wrong direction.
Here’s an example for weight loss:
The image above is typically how most people manage their weight-loss goal.
- They try to manage weight loss on exercise alone.
- They exercise more, and eat less.
- They cut out food, and add in supplements (nutrition).
- The in-balance makes them frustrated and stressed (attitude).
- This altered mood and focus, leads to relationship breakdown at home and in the office (life).
- Their inability to focus reduces output at work, and before you know it the promotion didn’t happen (career).
So, if you are looking to beat your life plateau, once and for all…
You must focus your attention to the opposite reaction to the action you have taken.
In this weight loss example, the action was in exercise. This disturbed other 4 categories creating a downward spiral. At first you see results in your weight loss, but soon, the stress from an unbalanced approach catches up and leads to feeling even more frustrated and overwhelmed.
The question is…
Are you heading towards your goal in a balanced approach?
Or are you focusing on just one area?
What does your wheel look like?
Will it get you down the road in a straight line….even at high speeds?
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So, if you feel like you are driving the car of life with a flat Tyre, then the only way out is to look at the bigger picture; to consider your full success potential.
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Until Next Time
Neale “The Flat Tyre” Bergman